Welcome back to the podcast and happy 2026. This is the first episode that I'm recording this year and I am kind of excited. I think this year's going to be different. I dunno why. I dunno if you feel it in the air, I know I'm feeling it and I've talked to some of my friends and clients and they all feel it.

So I hope you are feeling that this year. It's special, it's different in some way. The beauty of it is that you get to make the ear extra special, right? It doesn't need to come from outside of you. It doesn't need something to happen for you to feel better about anything. So I'm very excited about this year.

I am excited because I have made some changes in my personal life. I have been, a lot more active in my children's lives and really enjoying this. What I say is, stay at home mom. I was a stay at home mom for a few years when my, especially when my first born, When my son was born and I was with them until, like maybe four years or so.

And it was really fun. I really enjoyed it. And of course we start working and we fall in love with the job and I just wanted to grow my company and I'm so excited. I definitely did achieve many of the goals that I've had and it's exciting. But now this year I have been a little bit, well, actually since last year.

Since last year, I was mainly focused in my own business and my partnership with, that business coach. And now I'm really, craving being a mom, craving, making my house a home. That's what I, I said that my main goal, my main personal goal this year, it's making my house feel more like home because let me tell you.

I'm not good at decorating my house. You might see like my office being, decorated and I have some parts of my house that I feel really proud of myself for the work I did there. But decorating house is like interior design, not my forte. I am not good at it at all, to a point where my mud room is just a mess in one of the main hallways.

 I seriously, we've been living in the same house for seven, eight years now, and I still have no pictures on the wall. Nothing on the floor. It is weird. It's weird. So I think this year I'm finally like putting my big girl pants on. It's like, okay, I am making this house feel more like a home. And I'm excited about it.

And again, the stay at home mom, idea is that when my kids are home, I am not working, which feels a little bit hypocritical because my kids are here right now and I told them, just wait for 20 minutes. I just need to record this and I'll be right back. you know, that is a good way. To see that I was having this conversation with some of my coaching clients, 

 my clients who are also coaches and we talked about consistency and they wanted to, this is not about the podcast, it just came to my mind, but we were talking, we are doing this social media challenge and. They all, basically all of them wanted to be more consistent in posting on social media.

So I asked what consistency means to them and They were all very serious in one answer to do that thing every single day and never missing. And I was like, wow, that is so interesting because the goal. It means that you don't have the capacity to do that yet, right?

When you set a goal, like, okay, I want to lose weight, that is a big goal for this time of the year, and I want to, lose, I dunno, 50 pounds and I want to be eating this way, and you expect yourself to consistently eat that way right now, every single day. So what happens? Of course you are not going to do it.

Like that is already expected. It's already, I mean, you know, you're setting goals, knowing that you'll fail. The problem is a lot of times when we fail instead of looking at it and saying, oh, of course I would fail. That makes sense. What can I learn from this? How can I do it differently?

But no, instead you're like, oh, see, I'm not good enough. Lemme just not do it at all. And that's what happens with this wonderful coaches. And I know some of them will be listening to this podcast episode right now. and all the things here, I already told them, but it breaks my heart because they are setting goals to set themselves off for failure. And the biggest problem here is that it brings it back to their identity, right? Like I am not good enough. I knew I couldn't do it, and that is just sad because it's not true. So anyways, I don't even know why I started talking about this right now, but as we are setting goals at this time of the year, pay attention of what are we expecting that will happen?

What is the expectation? what do you believe that will happen right now? And just make sure if that is a little bit too high of an expectation and truthfully to expect it of you. Is that fair to expect that? Again, if you have never posted on social media or just sporadically, is he fair for you to expect that you'll be posting every single day?

No, it's not. So that goal is the point of reference. The goal is where you wanted to keep going. Okay? And again, losing weight. I know I, I love this. Building the business and lose weight examples, losing weight's, the same thing. If you want to lose weight and you're starting to make this plan in your head, you are starting to really see like, how can I make a food protocol to see what I can't eat or not eat, or what I will eat today or not eat?

Don't expect you're gonna do it all a hundred percent right. Actually expect that you won't, but You are aware from this awareness, you get to learn so much. I'm sorry, my soap opera on the first five minutes of the podcast, but this idea just came to my mind, and I wanted to share with you.

So I am excited because, oh, I remember why I said that. I am really growing this year, again, one of my main goals, my main priority is to be a stay at home mom, is to be with my kids when they're here. So pick them up from school. They're home. I am done working. That's the goal. With that being said, it is expected of me that I will fail a few times like today, and why did this happen, That's the questions that I can ask myself. Why did I fail? And I can actually look back and see why I had this podcast in my calendar to be recorded way earlier in the day. But then I decided to wash my dog. That is literally what I did. When was, you know, that block on my schedule to record this podcast.

I went out to bath my dog. I did it and I'm not even ashamed of it 'cause he really needed a bath. He was really stinky. And I'm grateful, but because I am also working on doing what I tell myself I would do, I know that I would need to pay the price by working late and being here recording this podcast, which I am excited to do it 'cause I, I do love doing this.

Okay. lemme tell you a little bit of what I planned to talk to you about in this very first episode of the year. December is my time of the year where I just focus on reviewing my year. That is just a month of reflection, right? Everything that I do is really thinking of what happened.

And then I take a pretty good two weeks off my life. I hide myself from everyone, sometimes even my family included, where from, you know, Christmas time-ish, like 22nd, 23rd of December, all the way to my birthday. I don't really do much other than the things that I just want to do. So this year I was decluttering some stuff that I really wanted to get.

Out of my house because you know, we are making the house feel like home and I was just studying some things, plenty. My ear doing things only for me. I always say that this is my vacation from being human. I just want to be alone for this couple of weeks, and then my year really starts in January 9th after my birthday on January 8th.

So my year just started a week or so ago. I'm just starting out and I love it. I was really thinking about what my year will be, so changing some things in my personal life, changing a few other things in my business life and work and all of those things. And what I really wanted to focus that is like 

My everything is the future self mindset program. That's where I am going all in, because I know that is magical. I know this program is something revolutionary. I know probably every coach says that this about their own program, but I really believe it. I really believe that I am putting something out there that can.

Absolutely change everything. Not just changing your life, but changing your paradigm, really teaching you a new way of thinking. And, you know, last episode, I think we were talking about some of the frameworks, The future self models that we use there. And as I was talking to other. Just in general, not coaches, not clients, but just people out there.

My friends and I was explaining that they were so amazed by the power that being able to see your goal and know that that goal is inevitable because it is happening right now and in a different plane is already accomplished and You can feel the sense of accomplishment.

And now we are just working towards that because it already exists. That changes everything. and I was there too, right? Like the whole picture, perfect life, but you feel like something's missing and you feel like, why can't life be better? And you look around and you see that 

everything you have is already amazing. So this year I really made it my mission for myself as my personal mission and my business mission to help every single person that comes across my life to live with so much more integrity. And this integrity is with who they truly are, right?

Integrity with who they are, knowing that they are, I mean, I call you perfect knowing that you are perfect and be in integrity with that truth.

That's how you start to feel so much more aligned, so much more fulfilled with the life that you have now instead of keep on thinking that things should have been different or I should have different things as rewards and truthfully Living a life with less regrets. That is so important.

And even more than that, it's living a life with more possibilities. So can you imagine if you get take the regrets out and add more possibilities, you see how much more future focused that is instead of being stuck in the regrets of your past? That's my mission. That's what I'm doing right now. That's what I'm doing with the Future Self Mindset program.

When I say that I know what it's like to have this picture perfect life, and you still feel stuck in this rut, it's because you have the guilt and shame as the most predominant emotions in your life in. You can have every single thing that you could possibly dream of, but those things will never be able to fulfill you.

And that's where we start to want more, to need more, to feel even guilty for wanting more. Because you know, you should be grateful, right? Like that's what that little voice tells you in the back of your mind. It's like, oh, Why aren't you grateful for what you have? And sometimes we're grateful and still we want more.

And it's hard to be with this. Cognitive dissonance, right? It's hard to have these two ideas in your head, and both of those ideas feel pretty true. Listen, I'm pretty sure that you have been living your life in this somewhat same frame of mind.

You have checked all of the boxes, you have done everything that society has expected of you, and now you are left believing that you should be happier. You should, be more fulfilled because guess what? You have done everything right in your life, and it almost seems unfair in many ways because why do you feel so entitled to being happy?

I want to tell you then where this entitlement is coming from because it doesn't feel the greatest. your brain is already wired to believe that actions have consequences, right?

So we have this way of seeing what happens to you is based on the things that you did, your actions, and I mean, how many times your mom has told you that action have consequences, right? I know that I say this to my children all the time, but it is, that's how we see things, right?

If I do good, I should receive good. If I do bad things like karma, right? Things will be bad. But when you look around and you clearly see the reward in this beautiful life, right? you have those rewards. so, why aren't you feeling the way you thought you would? So then you try to achieve more.

You try to get a promotional work. You try getting more education, more money, more everything. And it's like you were trying to make this math equation work. The results are just know what you believe. The correct result would be. the correct answer would be, so here's what I want you to try out. If you're feeling like this sounds about right with your life, there's this very simple exercise that I want to invite you to do this week.

You know, I love a good journal. So pick up your journal. And this does not need to be pretty, but I would love for you to write down a list of every single thing that you believe should be different in your life right now. How would you like your life to change? 

What are the things that you expected to have but you don't have it, and that feels unfair that you don't have those things you thought you should have by now? Make a list because when you make a list like this, when you actually writing those things down and you can see it, you can read it, You'll be able to see what are the things that you actually want to change and some things that you're like,

this might not feel really fair, but I don't really wanna change it now. Like now it's fine. A big one for me when I say this, one of the things that I have written down in this exercise was. That I thought was unfair that I found coaching while my kids were very small. I thought that it was unfair because it was really tough to create the business with little kids around, and I always thought that like, ah, why didn't I find this earlier on?

Right? When I didn't have the kids, when I didn't have a responsibility? It would be so much easier to create and grow the business I want. But guess what? I don't wanna change it. I don't want to send my kids to adoption. I don't want to not have kids. So you see, you might dislike something and not want to change.

You could wish that things were different, but now I don't want to change. So their regret that, resentment can go away because the truth is I don't want to change things,

Without this awareness, maybe I would be just telling myself constantly that it should have been different. I should have found coaching earlier on. and the only thing that that does to me is to create this resentment that. I most likely wouldn't be creating my business, right?

I would be just ruminating how things should have been different instead of being focused on how can I grow my business right now while I have these little kids? So that's kind of the mindset shift, Remember the problem here comes when you are so stuck on the idea that this is unfair. It should be different. I propose that we start holding space for both holding space, that you get to feel disappointed around things that had happened in the past and accept how things turned out.

And just imagine, if you are able to have a life where you just accepted things as it is because you know the fulfillment comes from the life that you have today. The life doesn't necessarily need to change. You don't need to do more, be more, be different to find that happiness and fulfillment in your life right now.

So imagine when or if, I like to think when we are all the humans in this planet can start really looking at your life as. This is what I have. And then decide what do I want to change and what do I want to accept, right? Because there are things we can't change. And what do you want to do? That is up to you.

Just remember, things that have happened in your past are not right or wrong, good or bad.

And even if you believe that something is wrong or something is bad, you can accept it and move on. That is a possibility for you to accept these things. You do not need to be stuck thinking that things should have been different. Okay, my friends. 

I hope you guys really give this exercise a chance because when you can see it on paper, what your mind is screaming at you, that things should have been different. Instead of just listening to that, when you look at on paper, you can see that sometimes it just sounds ridiculous, right?

Like me not having my kids as I'm building the business, that's just ridiculous. I love having them. They give me a lot of content, that's for sure. So we can change those things when you can see it. And that's my invitation to you here, my sweet friends. This year we are gonna hear so much more about future self.

We're gonna hear so much more about. Everything that I'm doing and I'm so excited to share it all with you. I hope these things help you so muchand I'll see you again next week.

Much love to you. Bye-bye.