Thais Glenn Coaching

I Did Everything Right… So Why Do I Feel Like This?

Wed, 21 Jan 2026 11:27:31 GMT

I Did Everything Right… So Why Do I Feel Like This?

Are you ready to make your goals inevitable?

Right about now you are probably being inundated by planning sessions, year planning, how to set your goals, etc… And a bunch of people talking about how there’s nothing special about January 1st, even though they are also all excited about starting over.

Now… I do agree in parts that there are nothing special about January 1st in the sense of having to wait until then to start. Or the hope that there’s something mystical that eventually it will make everything workout.

The truth is, psychologically, we do see Jan 1st as the possibility for new beginnings, but I also want to emphasize that you can decide to have a new beginning at any moment.

Something happened to me a few weeks ago, and I felt like it was my time to do something I’ve been dreaming of for a while.

If you listen to this podcast, or read my emails, or even participate in my classes, you know that I’ve been talking about the Future Self Mindset Program for a while. Even though I know the clients that are going through give me great feedback, I felt resistance to opening it up to more people.

And then, someone I really admire said a random thing, and everything changed. She wasn’t even talking to me, but my brain filtered it as: “It’s time. Time to get your big girl pants and go for it.”

I felt things changing within and I knew → This is not it yet.

Be careful with setting goals now that society is telling you you should… If the goal is to be healthier, lose weight, make more money → you must check in with yourself and see if this is really what you want/need.

I heard someone on social media talking about how she’s going to help you organize your life, so that you can have the right priorities in check, you know, the FAMILY. Well… maybe you DON’T want to do that. Maybe family isn’t your main priority right now.

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You know that sensation of “I’ve done everything right, so why am I feeling so unfulfilled?”

That’s exactly what I am talking about in this episode.

Here’s why: you’ve checked all of the boxes that were presented to you, built the life you were “supposed” to build, followed all the rules, so why doesn’t it feel the way you thought it would?

I discuss the idea of a hidden mindset that keeps us stuck in guilt, regret, and quiet dissatisfaction, and how learning to accept your life as it is, without needing to change it, opens the door to fulfillment, integrity, and real possibility.

This episode is about shifting how you see your past, your present, and your future, and why Future Self work changes everything.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

Why fulfillment doesn’t come as a “reward” for doing life correctly
How the belief “I should be happier by now” quietly creates guilt and shame
Why achievement, success, and more goals don’t fix the emptiness
The difference between regret and possibility, and why it matters
How acceptance creates freedom, without giving up on growth
A simple journaling exercise to release resentment and clarify what you actually want

The Future Self Mindset Program is where I teach this way of thinking in a deeper, more intentional way. It’s a space where we stop asking “what should be different?” and start asking “how do I want to relate to my life now, and who do I want to become from here?”

Be-Do-Have alone doesn’t work

Fri, 12 Dec 2025 22:45:17 GMT

Be-Do-Have alone doesn’t work

Why BE-DO-HAVE Isn’t Enough (And What Actually Creates Sustainable Change)

You’ve probably heard of the famous coaching model: BE → DO → HAVE.

It’s everywhere. And honestly, it’s a powerful shift compared to how most of us were raised to think about success.

But here’s the truth that most people don’t talk about:

BE-DO-HAVE alone doesn’t work.

Not in a deep, sustainable, “my life actually feels different now” kind of way.

Let me explain.

1. Why BE-DO-HAVE Stops Working

Most of us grew up in the traditional model:

DO → HAVE → BE.

Do more, so you can have more, so eventually you’ll be the successful/happy/whole person you want to be.

And BE-DO-HAVE came in as a welcome alternative:

Be first. Then do the things that version of you would do. Then have the results.

The problem?
Most women don’t actually know who they want to become — not in a way they can access, see clearly, or act from.

You can’t copy a version of you that you haven’t met yet.

So BE-DO-HAVE becomes a nice idea… but it stays theoretical.
You get stuck trying to guess:

“How would the future successful me behave?”
“How would she eat?”
“How would she show up?”
“How would she run her business?”

If you could answer those questions with clarity, you'd already be doing it.

Which is why BE-DO-HAVE so often collapses.

Not because it’s wrong, but because it’s incomplete.

2. Identity Is Always Stronger Than Willpower

This is the real reason change fades:

Identity ALWAYS wins.

You might create new habits for a while…
Eat differently…
Show up differently…
Work harder…

But if your identity hasn’t changed, you will snap right back to where you feel most familiar.

It works like a thermostat.
You can open the door in the winter and let the temperature drop…
but the thermostat will kick on and pull the room back to whatever temperature it was set to.

Your identity is that thermostat.

If you see yourself as someone who always struggles with weight…
Or someone who “isn’t good with money”…
Or someone whose marriage is “just okay”…

You can change for a moment, but eventually the identity kicks in and brings you back to the old baseline.

Willpower fades.
Identity doesn’t.

This is why people lose weight and gain it back.
Make money and blow it.
Have a good month in business and then freeze.
Make progress in their marriage and then revert to old patterns.

Your identity determines the ceiling.

3. You Can’t Sustain a Goal You Can’t See Yourself Living

This is the missing piece.

Unless you can SEE yourself in the future clearly, vividly, grounded in your values and desires, the goal will not feel sustainable.

Your brain cannot build a life you cannot imagine.

If the only picture your mind has is the “current you,” it will always pull you back to the old baseline.

But when you SEE:

who you are becoming,

how your life feels when it’s aligned,
the version of you living in integrity with her values,
the habits that feel natural to her,
and the identity she embodies…

…then your brain finally has a map.

Transformation becomes inevitable not because you’re pushing, but because you’re simply stepping into a version of yourself you already recognize.

This is why the Future Self Model works:

SEE → FEEL → KNOW & BE → DO → HAVE

You SEE the future with clarity.
You FEEL what it’s like to be her.
You KNOW this is aligned with your values, vision, and desires.

Then the identity shifts.
Then the habits stick.
Then the results last.

4. You Must Know Your Values (or You Might Be Climbing the Wrong Ladder)

Stephen Covey gives the perfect analogy:

“If the ladder is leaning against the wrong wall, every step we take just gets us to the wrong place faster.”

Most women have spent years, even decades climbing a ladder that society approved of:

the successful career

the perfect family
the steady marriage
the fit body
the socially acceptable life

But they reach the “top” and feel empty, guilty, or confused.

Not because they failed, but because they climbed a ladder that wasn’t theirs.

Before you can see your Future Self clearly, you must know:

What do I value the most?
What are my real priorities?
What actually matters to me?
What am I willing to stop pretending I want?

Your values determine the wall your ladder leans on.

Your imagination builds the picture at the top.

Your identity becomes the woman climbing it.

And your Future Self shows you exactly where you’re going.

The Truth

Real, lasting transformation doesn’t come from doing more.
It doesn’t come from forcing discipline.
It doesn’t come from willpower.

It comes from:

knowing your values,
imagining a future you actually want,
seeing yourself inside that future,

aligning how you live today with who you are becoming.

From there?

Your goals stop being something you chase…
and start being something you naturally grow into.

This is how you create a life that feels like yours — not society’s version, not the old identity’s limitations, not a ladder on the wrong wall.

Your Future Self is already living the life you want.

Your work is simply becoming her.

Ready to Take This Work Deeper?

If this resonates with you, you won’t want to miss the Future Self Mindset Program.

Inside the program, I walk you step by step through exactly how to do this work, how to clean yourself up from all the crusts society has put on you, reconnect with who you really are, understand your values, and create a clear vision of what life is supposed to be for YOU.

When you know your Future Self, your goals stop being something you “try” to achieve.
They become inevitable , because that’s just who you are.

If you feel that pull… trust it. This work will change everythig.

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Be-Do-Have is one of the most important models in the coaching industry.
ICF teaches it, and most coaches use it as one of the first exercises with new clients.

I know it has been super helpful to me in the past, but as I was working with many clients and as I shifted my message and niche to be more focused in the work of FS, I realized that this model alone is faulty.

So, How does this model work?

I will use my own example, when I lost weight and started running daily.

Then, it realized I didn’t know exactly WHO I needed to be, and that’s the biggest piece of this.

The society teaches us that we need to do things differently.

If I want to have a skinny body, I need to eat well and exercise (DO) then have the body and finally become the identity of a skinny person → DO-HAVE-BE

We know that this doesn’t work because how many times have you lost weight and gained it all back?

Or people who lose all their money they won in lottery, or all the NBA players… They never changed the identity, so it wasn’t sustainable.

Why You Feel Stuck (Even When Your Life Looks Perfect)

Thu, 27 Nov 2025 23:00:37 GMT

Why You Feel Stuck

(Even When Your Life Looks Perfect)

You might be feeling stuck in a rut, and you don’t even know what that is.

I have noticed that with many of my clients or even people that I talk to.

When you don’t know that you stuck in the rut, you feel all the emotions, and keep thinking that there’s something wrong with you, since there’s not a clear reason as to why you re feeling this way.

One of the red flags I like sharing with my clients to start the process of awareness for your own RUT is to notice how you feel, or even if you are flooded with negative thoughts coming at you when you feel the way you feel.

The self blaming, guilt, shame… the way you feel like you should be ashamed, you should feel guilty for not feeling happier and more fulfilled.

Can you see how harsh this cycle is? Feeling guilty for wanting to be happier, and feeling ashamed for not feeling as happy as you think you should be. Ouch, that hurts just writing this.

And it also hurts thinking that there’s something wrong with you, because there’s no way this is just normal.

If you keep contemplating the question “What’s wrong with me?” it’s time to start paying more attention to this talk about the rut…

Why is this so important?

You DESERVE so much more than what you are allowing in your life. And I want to emphasize the word ALLOWING. You get to allow what you want to have in your life. And a lot of times, we literally do not allow happiness, fulfillment, contentment, or even life satisfaction.

In many ways, we don’t think we deserve to have those things. And that’s a problem. We settle in living a smaller life, even though we know, deep down, we have such greater potential compared to the life we have now.

When you feel stuck, it’s so much harder to ALLOW the feelings of happiness to come to you.

What does it mean that you are stuck?

You might be asking what it feels to be stuck in the first place… what does it mean to be stuck in life?

Here are two ways I’d invite you to think through this.

Are you FEELING stuck, and

Are you BEING stuck?

Let’s talk about the 1st one. What's it like to FEEL stuck?

Have you ever felt like you opened your eyes, and life moved on, husband has a great job, kids are growing, kids are developing, and still, it feels like nothing has changed with you. You are just responding to everything going on around you, but you are not really changing, growing, and evolving. You are just paralyzed while everything is moving along.

I remember when I noticed this for the first time, and it is not like I wasn’t doing a lot of things. I had started a business, I had 3 children after years of infertility, but it felt like everything was the same. It was so hard to explain, because everyone that saw my life could see how much everything changed so quickly, but deep down I was stuck in what felt like held down by an identity that didn’t belong to me.

I mean, how can you even explain that to someone?

My emotional baseline was basically the same everyday. I felt bored, I felt the lack of excitement, lack of fulfillment… but when anyone (me included) looked at my life on paper, it was pretty amazing. Everything I had accomplished would make anyone super excited, but me… not really…

My best guess is that something was wrong with me. And to be fair, whenever I heard the “There’s nothing wrong with you,” my skin crawled a little bit… It felt dismissive and misunderstood.

How could anyone understand it? I couldn’t understand it myself… My life was literately picture-perfect, everyone who say it noticed how much it was accomplished, and yet

The thing is that society gives us a list of “boxes” to check by the time we are at this age. We don’t even consider if it is necessary or not.

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Here’s what you will learn in this episode:

The difference between feeling stuck and being stuck, and why that distinction matters.
Why women with picture-perfect lives often feel unfulfilled, disconnected, or guilty for wanting more.
How repeated patterns (like weight loss struggles or setting the same goals) reveal deeper emotional stuckness.
The answer to the important question, “What is wrong with me?” and how self-understanding becomes the foundation for self-love.
A preview of the Art & Science of the Future Self and how it helps you reconnect with your true desires and inner potential.

The Future Self Mindset: Why Growth vs. Fixed Thinking Isn’t Enough

Sat, 08 Nov 2025 14:41:09 GMT

The Future Self Mindset: Why Growth vs. Fixed Thinking Isn’t Enough

I still remember learning the concept of mindset many years ago, even before I became a life coach, and it has always fascinated me.

I like to think of mindset almost as an aura that surrounds you, an invisible energy field that shapes how you experience life. It’s what covers you and gives you the ability to think in different ways, like an atmosphere that feeds your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, and allows you to make sense of the world you see.

Mindset as an Aura

It’s as if you are walking through life inside of a bubble, your personal frequency. Everything you perceive, every decision you make, every interaction you have is filtered through it.

That’s why two people can experience the exact same situation, such as a delayed flight, and have completely different reactions. Why? Because their mindsets create different meanings.

One person might see it as, “Of course, this always happens to me.”
Another might think, “Perfect, more time for me to rest.”
Not right or wrong, just different.

“Your mindset is your emotional climate. You can’t control the weather outside, but you can choose the atmosphere you live in.”

If we bring this metaphor into psychological terms, your mindset acts like a neural filter. Your brain is constantly gathering information, but your beliefs decide which information to keep and which to ignore.

If your aura (your mindset) vibrates with fear, scarcity, or doubt, your brain highlights evidence that confirms that. You’ll notice what’s wrong, what’s missing, and what could go wrong.

But when your aura expands through curiosity, love, and possibility, your mind begins to see new opportunities. It literally opens the door to a different emotional reality.

“The energy you think in is the energy you live in.”

Mindset as the Glasses You Wear

Now, if your mindset is the aura surrounding you, it’s also the glasses you wear to look at life.

Those glasses hold the lenses of your perception, literally the way you interpret the world, make meaning of what happens, and decide what’s possible for you.

We often talk about “seeing things differently,” but few of us realize how deeply our mindset determines what we even see.

Your experiences, upbringing, fears, and beliefs all shape the prescription of those lenses. They decide whether the world looks hopeful or heavy, forgiving or unfair, abundant or scarce.

“You don’t see life as it is. You see life as you are, through the lenses you wear.”

When your mindset is cloudy with doubt, guilt, or shame, everything you look at feels distorted.

A compliment might feel insincere.
An opportunity might look risky.
A dream might seem impossible.

But when you clean the glasses (when you adjust your mindset), clarity returns. And you are finally able to see things you didn’t see before, like possibility or a sense of enoughness.

Just like switching from dark sunglasses to clear lenses, the same life suddenly feels better. Nothing outside changed, only the way you looked at it.

This is why working on your mindset matters so much. It’s not about forcing positivity; it’s about upgrading the frames that hold your perception in place.

Here’s the actual truth that you don’t hear very often:

Sometimes, the frames you’ve been wearing no longer fit who you’re becoming. They might have protected you in the past, but now they pinch, distort, or blur your vision.

When you understand this, you are able to try new ones, the same lenses that your Future Self wears effortlessly .

She looks through lenses of curiosity instead of judgment, self-compassion instead of criticism, possibility instead of fear.

Her glasses help her see the same world, but through love.

“When you change the frame, you change the view. When you shift your mindset, the whole world comes into focus.”

What Is Mindset, Anyway?

The word mindset has become one of those buzzwords we hear everywhere, with therapists, coaches, and online influencers telling everyone that they “must shift their mindset.”

But what does that even mean? What is mindset, really?

To me, mindset is more than a catchy self-help phrase. It’s the mental framework that runs quietly in the background of your life, shaping how you interpret everything that happens to you.

It’s the operating system of your mind, the coding behind every thought, emotion, and choice.

Your mindset determines:

What you pay attention to.
How you explain things to yourself.
How you respond when life doesn’t go as planned.

“Mindset is the bridge between what happens to you and what you make it mean.”

Growth and Fixed Mindset:

One of the most well-known explanations of mindset comes from psychologist Dr. Carol Dweck, who introduced the ideas of the fixed mindset and the growth mindset.

In simple terms:

A fixed mindset is the belief that your abilities, intelligence, and personality are set in stone; you either have it or you don’t. People with a fixed mindset tend to avoid challenges, give up easily, and see failure as proof that they’re not enough.
A growth mindset , on the other hand, is the belief that your abilities can be developed through effort, learning, and dedication. It’s the perspective that says, “I can get better at this,” or “I can figure this out.”

Carol Dweck’s research showed that the difference between people who thrive and those who stay stuck often comes down to this single belief:

“Do I believe I can grow?”

And while this framework is incredibly useful, I’ve found in my coaching that most people don’t live in just one category.

You might have a growth mindset about your career, believing you can learn and improve, and a fixed mindset about your relationships or your body.

It’s helpful to think of our mindset as a spectrum.

There’s no such thing as having only one mindset. It’s circumstantial. It depends on what is happening, and you can even have both in the same scenario. In business, you can have growth in certain areas and fixed in others. The same goes for relationships and even weight loss.

That’s the thing about the growth and fixed mindset: as powerful as they are, they can start to feel a bit black-and-white, like positive versus negative, right versus wrong. And life just isn’t that simple.

When I talk about the Future Self Mindset, I’m expanding beyond growth and fixed. It’s not only about effort or potential; it’s about identity, who you believe you are becoming.

The Future Self Mindset

The Future Self Mindset is yet another way of seeing the world.

Instead of filtering your life through growth vs. fixed, success vs. failure, or positive vs. negative, you begin to see yourself through the lens of who you’re becoming.

It’s about remembering who you really are underneath all the layers of expectations, conditioning, and self-doubt, and not about striving to be better.

“Your Future Self isn’t a goal. She’s a guide, the truest reflection of who you’ve always been.”

When you look through the lens of your Future Self, you stop asking, “What’s wrong with me?” and start asking, “What version of me is trying to emerge?”

That’s how you begin to see every challenge as part of your evolution rather than a test of your worth.

How the Future Self Mindset Feels Different

While the growth mindset focuses on developing skills through effort and learning, the Future Self Mindset focuses on identity and alignment.

Growth mindset says: I can get better at this.
Future Self Mindset says: I can become the version of me who already lives this way.

The shift is subtle, but it moves you from self-improvement to self-becoming.

“It’s not about changing who you are. It’s about becoming more of who you already are.”

Underneath the Crust: Remembering Your Wholeness

We all carry layers of what I call crust . Old beliefs and emotional residue that have built up over time.

Thoughts like:
“I’m not confident.”
“I’m not strong enough.”
“I’m just not happy.”

But here’s the truth: none of those things is who you are . They’re just layers sitting on top of your truth.

Underneath the crust, you are whole. You are capable. You are already enough.

“You are not a broken human who needs fixing. You are a whole human who’s still learning.”

Remember, you are not a robot. You are a perfect human being who isn’t flawless. You are actually fully alive.

As a perfect human being, you cry, you get angry, you feel uncertain, and sometimes you have no idea what to do next.

That doesn’t make you wrong. It makes you real.

The problem isn’t striving for perfection. You already are perfect. The problem is striving to become something you are not, such as a robot.

Learning to Be Human

I don’t know how you grew up, but for me, no one sat me down and said,
“It’s okay to be angry. Here’s how to move through that.”
“It’s okay to be sad. Here’s how to let your body release it.”

I was simply handed expectations instead of emotional tools.

So I grew up believing that if I didn’t feel happy all the time, I must be doing something wrong.

Sounds familiar?
If it does, I want you to ask this question: “But what if I’m not wrong?”

What if you’ve just never been taught how to navigate the inner world of being human?

Learning to Be Human Is Like Learning to Ride a Bike

Think about a child learning to ride a bike.
They fall, scrape their knees, wobble, and fall again until someone comes along to steady the seat or adds training wheels to help them balance.

That’s how life works, too.

You weren’t meant to figure it all out alone. You’re meant to learn, wobble, and be supported.

Yet when it comes to emotions, most of us think we should just know how to do it, how to love, how to forgive, how to be at peace.

And when we can’t, we assume something’s wrong with us.

Nothing’s wrong. You’re just learning to ride.

“Falling isn’t failing. It’s proof that you’re learning balance.”

The Future Self Perspective

When you begin to see yourself through the Future Self Mindset, you stop judging the version of you that’s still learning.

You hold her with compassion instead of criticism. You understand that every fall is part of your evolution.

Your Future Self doesn’t shame you for wobbling. She whispers, “You’re doing it. Keep going.”

The Future Self Mindset is about unlearning all the patterns you picked up along the way, all the thoughts and beliefs that define a “good” woman, a “successful” person, a “happy” life.

It’s the mindset that helps you strip away the noise so you can rediscover what you actually value, what truly matters to you, not what society, family, or comparison culture says should matter.

Because here’s what happens for so many people:

They do everything “right.”
They work hard, achieve their goals, create a beautiful life on the outside, and then one day they realize they’ve built a version of success that doesn’t feel like them.

That’s when the Future Self Mindset becomes so powerful.

It’s not about helping you fit into the box you were handed. It’s about helping you realize you can build your own.

“You were never meant to shrink yourself to fit the box. You were meant to design one that fits your soul.”

When you start seeing your life through the eyes of your Future Self, the checklist fades and a new question appears:

What do I actually want my life to feel like?

Fulfillment isn’t about changing everything on the outside until you achieve it. It can only happen when you are in alignment inside.

Through this mindset, you stop performing your life and start living it. You stop chasing happiness as a goal and begin to experience it as a natural result of authenticity.

The Future Self Mindset helps you create a life that feels like coming home, because it’s finally built around you.

If this resonates, I’d love to guide you deeper inside the Future Self Mindset Program , where we do this work together.

35. The Future Self Mindset: Why Growth vs. Fixed Thinking Isn’t Enough

Fri, 07 Nov 2025 23:34:18 GMT

35. The Future Self Mindset: Why Growth vs. Fixed Thinking Isn’t Enough

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Transcript:

Welcome to Get Out of the Rut with Thais Glenn , episode number 35.

Hello guys, welcome back to the podcast! Today, I’m excited to talk about this because there are a lot of things cooking in the background—so many new things coming up for you soon—and I wanted to share what that means for you and for me.

One of the things I really want to talk about today is this word that has almost become a buzzword: mindset . What is mindset, anyway? We hear so much about it.

Many years ago, I read a book by Carol Dweck about the growth mindset and the fixed mindset. I don’t know many people who have read the whole book—it’s a bit heavy, right? Even for me, it took a long time to really study it and understand what mindset is, and especially the difference between growth and fixed mindsets.

People who are into coaching or personal development like to think of themselves as having a growth mindset. But that’s not really how it works. I don’t believe anyone has a growth mindset in every area of life. The growth mindset is simply the belief that you can develop your abilities through effort, learning, and dedication.

It’s the idea that you can grow, develop, and change. But it’s not something you hold in every area of your life. Maybe you have a growth mindset about your business but a fixed mindset about relationships or your health.

The fixed mindset, on the other hand, is the belief that your abilities are static—you have it or you don’t. You’re either confident or you’re not; talented or not; intelligent or not. It’s unchangeable.

You might believe you can grow your business because you’re learning and improving as a CEO, but in another area—say, weight loss—you might think, “This is just my body. I’ve always been this way. Nothing works.” That’s the fixed mindset creeping in, creating that inner conflict between what you want to believe and what you actually believe deep down.

That’s where the concept of mindset becomes fascinating. Mindset is the lens through which you see the world—it’s a set of beliefs and attitudes that drive your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. It’s like a filter running in the background that shapes how you experience life.

Your mindset is built from your experiences and the context of your life. Someone who grew up in hardship might see the world differently from someone who didn’t. But even two people with similar backgrounds can develop completely different mindsets—one might say, “I’ll do better for my kids,” while another might say, “That’s just how life is.”

So, when we talk about growth versus fixed mindset, it can start to feel black and white—like positive versus negative, right versus wrong. But life isn’t that simple.

That’s why I want to introduce you to a different mindset—what I call the Future Self Mindset .

The Future Self Mindset is another way of seeing the world. Instead of filtering your life through the lens of growth versus fixed, or positive versus negative, you begin to see yourself through the lens of your future self .

This means focusing on the person you are becoming—not because she’s better than you, but because she’s who you truly are underneath all the layers society has placed on you.

We all carry layers of “crust”—beliefs like “I’m not confident,” “I’m not strong enough,” or “I’m just not happy.” None of those things are true. You are a perfect human being—not a robot.

A perfect human being cries, gets angry, feels lost, and doesn’t always know what to do. Why? Because no one ever taught us how to handle emotions. You’re not broken for not knowing—you’re human.

Think about a child learning to ride a bike. They fall over and over until someone holds the seat or adds training wheels. That’s how life works—we need guidance to learn new skills. Yet, when it comes to living life, we think we should just know how to do it alone.

The Future Self Mindset helps you unlearn those old patterns. It helps you discover what you value, what matters to you , not what society tells you should matter.

So many people come to coaching wanting help fitting their life into the box they were given—checking off all the boxes of what success “should” look like. But when they’ve checked all the boxes and still feel unhappy, that’s when the Future Self Mindset becomes powerful.

It helps you build your own box—the life that fits you .

For some people, that means a structured, organized life. For others, it means freedom and flow. The key is living from confidence and joy because you’re aligned with who you truly are.

When you connect with your future self—when you imagine the woman you’re becoming—you start living as her now.

This isn’t about chasing the future. It’s about embodying the future that’s calling you.

You’ve probably heard of the Be-Do-Have model: Be the person, do what she does, and then you’ll have what she has. It’s a great model, and it works—up to a point. But there’s more to it.

If you don’t actually see yourself as that person, the model falls apart. You can’t “be” someone you can’t even imagine being.

That’s where the Future Self Mindset adds depth. It brings in vision, belief, and identity alignment. It helps you see that your desires aren’t random—they’re your soul’s calling.

When your goals come from that place, they feel inevitable.

So, the Future Self Mindset is not about changing everything around you. It’s about changing how you see yourself, your world, and what’s possible for you.

It’s about living with awareness of your values, your desires, your vision, and creating your life from that truth—not from fear or limitation, but from love and possibility.

That’s what the Future Self Mindset is all about.

And I can’t wait to take you deeper into it inside the Future Self Mindset Program. Enrollment opens soon, and I hope you’ll join us.

Remember, there might be a version of you that feels more aligned, more fulfilled, and more you —and she’s not far away. She’s already within you, waiting for you to see her.

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Blog | How to Make Your Goals INEVITABLE

thaisglenn@gmail.com (Thais Glenn) — Thu, 20 Mar 2025 16:01:04 GMT

"The journey of achieving your goal is where your life happens. It doesn’t start when you arrive."

"When you go into a goal thinking there’s no other way but success, everything becomes simpler and more fun."

How to Make Your Goals INEVITABLE - And Enjoy the Pursuit Along the Way

Have you ever set a goal—whether it’s losing weight, building your business, or making a big life change—only to feel stuck, unmotivated, or even afraid to start?

You’re not alone. Most people approach goal-setting in a way that makes them feel overwhelmed before they even begin.

But what if I told you there’s another way?

A way that makes your success inevitable. A way that helps you enjoy the process instead of dreading it.

In this post, I’ll show you how to shift your mindset, set goals from a place of abundance, and take action without burnout. Plus, I’m inviting you to join me behind the scenes as I go after my own goal—losing weight without dieting, restriction, or shame.

Let’s dive in!

Why Most People Struggle to Achieve Their Goals

Have you ever thought:

❌ I need to lose weight because I hate how I look.

❌ I have to make money in my business or I’m failing.

❌ I should be further ahead by now.

These thoughts might feel motivating at first, but they’re actually rooted in scarcity —the belief that you’re not enough as you are.

But here’s the truth: You don’t achieve goals because you don’t like yourself—you achieve them out of love and respect for yourself.

Shift from ‘I Have To’ → ‘I Get To’

Instead of thinking, I have to lose weight, try:

�� "I get to take care of my body in a way that makes me feel amazing."

Instead of thinking, I have to build my business, try:

�� "I get to create something meaningful that helps others and supports my dreams."

This small shift changes everything.

�� Your success is inevitable when you move from ‘I have to’ → ‘I get to.’

Making Success Inevitable (Without Hustle & Burnout!)

One of the biggest mindset shifts I teach my clients is this:

Instead of asking, ‘What if I fail?’ ask, ‘What if this is inevitable?’

If your success was guaranteed , how would you approach your goals differently?

✔️ You wouldn’t panic over slow progress.✔️ You wouldn’t be discouraged by small setbacks.
✔️ You’d trust the process and enjoy the journey.

�� "When you go into a goal thinking there’s no other way but success, everything becomes simpler and more fun."

How to Make Any Goal Feel Exciting & Fun

Let’s be honest—most people make goal-setting miserable.

�� Strict diets.
�� Overcomplicated business strategies.
�� Pushing through exhaustion.

But here’s the thing: If the process is miserable, you won’t stick with it.

So let’s change that.

1️⃣ Add Curiosity

Instead of judging yourself, approach your goals with curiosity.

❌ Why can’t I stay consistent? → �� "I wonder what would make this feel easier for me?"
❌ Why do I keep procrastinating? → �� "What if I experimented with different ways to take action?"

"Curiosity changes everything—what if achieving your goal wasn’t hard? What if it could actually be easy and exciting?"

2️⃣ Build Self-Respect Through Small Actions

Most people think they’ll love themselves after they achieve their goal.

But it’s actually the opposite— self-respect is what helps you achieve your goal.

"Because I respect myself, I drink more water today. Because I love myself, I prioritize rest."

Small acts of self-respect create momentum. And momentum makes success inevitable.

3️⃣ Make the Journey Fun

Life is happening now, not when you achieve your goal. So instead of making yourself miserable…

✔️ Find workouts that feel good.
✔️ Market your business in a way that feels fun.
✔️ Celebrate small wins along the way.

"The journey of achieving your goal is where your life happens. It doesn’t start when you arrive."

Join Me: Let’s Achieve Goals Together!

I’m on a journey right now to lose weight—not from a place of shame, but from a place of love and curiosity.

And I want to invite you to come along with me.

If you have a goal—whether it’s weight loss, building your coaching business, or creating a new habit—I want to help you make it inevitable.

�� Want to join my behind-the-scenes journey? Send me a DM on Instagram with the words “Close Friends” and I’ll add you to my private stories where I share:

�� My thought process in real time
�� How I handle setbacks and challenges
�� The exact mindset shifts that make success easier

�� DM me here: @thaisglenncoaching

No email required. No pressure. Just an invitation to do this together.

�� "If success is inevitable, what can you do today to make the journey more enjoyable?"

Final Thoughts: You Are More Capable Than You Think

No matter what goal you have right now, I want you to know:

✨ You are not behind .
✨ You are not failing .
✨ You are capable of more than you realize.

If you take just one thing from this post, let it be this:

�� "Your future self is already waiting for you. All you have to do is take the next step."

Let’s make success inevitable—together.

Are You Ready to Step Into Your Future Self?

If this conversation resonated with you, I invite you to take the next step.

�� Join my ‘Get Out of the Rut’ program —where we work together to help you step into your Future Self with confidence.
�� Follow me on Instagram for daily inspiration and behind-the-scenes insights.
�� Join my email list for exclusive content designed to help you reinvent yourself.

Because you deserve a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside. And it all starts with one choice— choosing yourself.

✨ Are you ready? Let’s do this together.

Journaling Prompts:

Pause for a moment. Imagine sitting down with your journal, a cup of coffee, and giving yourself the gift of reflection. These 10 questions will help you see yourself with more kindness, release self-judgment, and step into the version of you who already has the life you desire.

1️⃣ What is one thing I deeply appreciate about myself today that I often overlook?
(Self-love starts with recognizing what is already good about you.)

2️⃣ If I viewed myself with the same love and kindness I give to my closest friend, how would my life feel different?
(How can you extend that level of compassion to yourself?)

3️⃣ What’s one small way I can show more respect to myself this week—physically, emotionally, or mentally?
(Self-respect is the foundation for achieving any goal.)

4️⃣ If my success was truly inevitable, how would I approach my biggest goal differently?
(How would you act, think, and feel if you knew it was happening?)

5️⃣ Think about a time when you felt most confident, happy, or powerful—what was different about that version of you?
(That version of you still exists—what would it take to reconnect with her?)

6️⃣ If I were already living as my Future Self, what daily habits, thoughts, or beliefs would I embody?
(What’s stopping you from adopting even one of those habits today?)

7️⃣ What is one story I tell myself about why I can’t have what I truly desire?
(How would my life change if I let go of that belief?)

8️⃣ If I replaced self-criticism with self-curiosity, what would I learn about myself?
(Instead of judging yourself, can you get curious about why you think, feel, or act the way you do?)

 9️⃣ What’s one area of my life where I feel ‘stuck’? What is my inner wisdom telling me I really need?
(Are you craving change, rest, growth, or something else entirely?)

�� If I fully trusted that I am already enough exactly as I am, what would I do differently today?
(Your worth is not based on what you achieve—what shifts when you believe that?)

Blog | The Secret to Achieving Any Goal: Become the Person Who Has It

thaisglenn@gmail.com (Thais Glenn) — Thu, 20 Mar 2025 13:29:53 GMT

When you know deep down that success is inevitable, the journey stops feeling so hard. You’re just waiting for the results to catch up.

If you see yourself as someone who struggles, you’ll keep struggling. But if you start seeing yourself as someone who thrives, your actions will start to align with that.

The Secret to Achieving Any Goal - Become the Person Who Has It

Have you ever set a big, bold goal and immediately felt that little voice whisper, "But what if I fail?"

I get it. I’ve been there—whether it was in weight loss, business growth, or personal transformation —and I’ve learned that success doesn’t come from just setting a goal. It comes from becoming the person who already has it before the results ever show up.

Today, I want to share a powerful mindset shift that will make your success inevitable —whether you’re trying to lose weight, build your business, or transform your confidence from the inside out.

Step One: Stop Focusing on the Goal—Start Focusing on Who You Are Becoming

Most people think achieving a goal works like this:
�� Set the goal.
�� Work hard.
�� Get the result.

But here’s the real formula for success:
�� Become the person who has the goal.
�� Act from that identity every day.
�� The goal naturally follows.

You don’t achieve the goal and THEN become the person. You become the person FIRST, and the results catch up.

I learned this firsthand when I was working toward my first six-figure coaching business .

I wanted it so badly, but for the longest time, I wasn’t actually being the coach who could make six figures. I lacked confidence. I second-guessed myself.

Then, everything changed. I stopped waiting for external validation and started showing up like a six-figure coach. And guess what? Clients started coming. Opportunities started flowing. I became the person FIRST, and the money followed.

�� Try this: Ask yourself, If I already had my goal, how would I act today?

If you’re on a weight loss journey , that might mean…

- Eating in a way that supports your body.
- Moving like someone who LOVES taking care of herself.
- Thinking like a woman who already trusts herself with food.

For your business , it might mean…
- Showing up online like a coach who already has paying clients.
- Talking about your offer with confidence.
- Pitching yourself for opportunities instead of waiting for someone to notice you.

This is how we make success inevitable.

Step Two: What If Failure Wasn’t a Problem?

Let’s talk about that sneaky little thought that keeps popping up:

"But what if I fail?"

Here’s the truth: You’re not actually afraid of failure.
You’re afraid of embarrassment.

And guess what? You can handle embarrassment.

“The fear isn’t really about failing—it’s about being embarrassed. But I can handle embarrassment. And so can you.”

When I first started coaching, I was terrified that people wouldn’t take me seriously. But I realized that I was the one who needed to take myself seriously first.

What if you fully believed in yourself—right now? What if you showed up for your business or your body without second-guessing? What if you decided that failure wasn’t a reason to quit, but just part of the process?

The moment you stop letting the fear of failure control you is the moment everything changes.

Step Three: Rewrite the Story You’re Telling Yourself

We all have a story running in the background of our minds.

✨ “I’ve always struggled with my weight.”
✨ “I’m not confident enough to be successful.”
✨ “I’m just not good at business.”

But here’s what I want you to know: That story is optional.

“90% of the reasons you think you can’t achieve your goal are just stories you’ve been telling yourself. And you get to change the story.”

Instead of…
❌ “I always gain the weight back.”
Try…
✅ “I’m learning how to sustain weight loss in a way that feels good.”

Instead of…
❌ “I’m not ready to grow my business.”
Try…
✅ “I’m becoming someone who confidently builds her business.”

Your brain believes whatever you tell it. Feed it thoughts that support your success.

Step Four: The Best Way to Overcome Limiting Beliefs

Limiting beliefs aren’t something to ignore or push down. They’re actually full of valuable information.

Picture an iceberg.
The small part you see above the surface? That’s the limiting belief you’re aware of.
The massive part underneath? That’s all the deeper thoughts and fears you don’t even realize are there.

This is why journaling is so powerful.

Try this exercise: Open your journal and write, “What am I afraid of?” —and let your brain go wild. Write out every single fear.

You’ll quickly realize that most of it is just noise —not actual truth. And the few things that ARE real? Now you have the power to work through them.

�� “If you see yourself as someone who struggles, you’ll keep struggling. But if you start seeing yourself as someone who thrives, your actions will start to align with that.”

Final Step: Join Me Inside My “Close Friends” Group on Instagram!

I want you to see what this process looks like in real-time .

�� Every day, I’m sharing behind-the-scenes of my own weight loss journey and mindset shifts inside my Instagram Close Friends group—for FREE.

✨ My struggles.
✨ My wins.
✨ The mindset shifts that are changing everything.

Want in? Listen to episode 23 of the Get Out of the Rut Podcast and find the key words to message me on Instagram @thaisglenncoaching, and I’ll personally add you!

And if today’s message resonated with you, go listen to the full podcast episode here ��.

Remember: Your success is inevitable. You just have to start acting like it.

XO,

Thais

Journaling Prompts:

1. If I already had the success I desire (in weight loss, business, or confidence), how would I think, act, and feel differently today?

2. What’s one story I’ve been telling myself about why I can’t succeed? Where did that story come from, and is it actually true?

3. If I spoke to myself with the same love and compassion I give my best friend, how would I encourage myself right now?

4. What are three words that describe the person I’m becoming? How can I embody these traits today?

5. What is the most common fear that holds me back from going after my goals? If I knew that fear could no longer control me, what would I do next?

6. Imagine meeting your Future Self five years from now. What advice does she have for you? How does she remind you that everything you want is already within you?

7. What is one small shift I can make today that aligns me more with my Future Self? (This could be a thought, a habit, or a way I show up for myself.)

8. If failure and embarrassment weren’t options, what goal would I go all in on right now? Why haven’t I done it yet?

9. What does self-love look like for me today? How can I show up with more kindness and compassion toward myself?

 10. What would it feel like to fully trust myself on this journey? How can I start trusting myself more starting today?

Blog |Why Focusing on the Goal Won’t Keep You Motivated—Here’s What Will

thaisglenn@gmail.com (Thais Glenn) — Thu, 20 Mar 2025 13:29:47 GMT

When you know deep down that success is inevitable, the journey stops feeling so hard. You’re just waiting for the results to catch up.

If you see yourself as someone who struggles, you’ll keep struggling. But if you start seeing yourself as someone who thrives, your actions will start to align with that.

Why Focusing on the Goal Won’t Keep You Motivated —Here’s What Will

Do you ever set a goal, feel super motivated at first , and then slowly lose that fire?

You start strong, but after a few weeks, life gets busy, and suddenly, that goal feels impossible.

Here’s the truth: Focusing on the goal is the reason you’re stuck.

The key to lasting motivation? You have to commit to your vision, not just your goal.

In today’s blog, I’m sharing why goal-based motivation fails and how vision-driven success makes your results inevitable. If you’re ready to stop forcing yourself to stay motivated and start creating the future YOU want, keep reading!

�� Why Focusing on the Goal Sets You Up to Fail

Most people set goals like:
✅ Lose 20 pounds.
✅ Make six figures in business.
✅ Work out five times a week.

But here’s the problem…

When you’re ONLY committed to the goal, you rely on willpower. And willpower? It’s like a phone battery—it drains FAST.

"If you’re forcing yourself to work out, eat healthy, or show up for your business—but you’re not connected to a bigger vision, motivation will always fade."

✨ The Secret: Commit to Your Vision, Not Just Your Goal

Instead of focusing on what you need to do , focus on who you are becoming.

�� Shift from: “I need to lose 20 lbs.”
✅ To: “I am becoming a strong, confident woman who prioritizes her health.”

�� Shift from: “I need to sign more clients.”
✅ To: “I am becoming a thriving coach who attracts dream clients effortlessly.”

�� Your goals are just stepping stones. Your vision is the destination.

Rewire Your Mindset with Future-Self Thinking

If you’re struggling to stay committed, try this:

Before making a decision, ask yourself:

What would my future self do right now?

Your future self already has the life you’re dreaming of . She already:
✔️ Loves working out and moving her body.
✔️ Runs a thriving business with confidence.
✔️ Feels fulfilled, radiant, and at peace.

So before skipping that workout or avoiding that Instagram post, PAUSE.

"Your future self is already living your dream. Step into HER shoes today."

Are You More Committed to Your Excuses or Your Vision?

Here’s a hard truth:

You are 100% committed to something.

Either you’re committed to your vision ...
Or you’re committed to your excuses.

Your results show what you’re truly committed to.

If you keep saying, “I’ll never lose weight,” or “No one will ever pay me for coaching,” you are committing to that belief.

But the good news? ✨ You can change what you’re committed to. ✨

Decide today:

I am committed to my vision.
I am becoming the woman who naturally achieves my dream life.

The Mindset Shift That Makes Success Inevitable

Most people believe success comes from:
❌ Pushing harder
❌ Forcing discipline
❌ Hustling through struggle

But the real secret? Success comes from identity shifts.

"You don’t actually want the goal. You want to become the person who naturally achieves it."

�� If you love the journey , the results will follow.
�� If you become the person who thrives , success is inevitable.

Self-Love is the Foundation for Success

If you truly love yourself, you will act in alignment with your vision.

A woman who loves herself:
✔️ Nourishes her body because she deserves to feel amazing .
✔️ Builds her business because she believes in her gifts .
✔️ Stays consistent because she respects herself enough to show up .

"The more you love yourself, the easier it is to make choices that align with your future self."

If you’re struggling, start with self-compassion.

Your Next Step: Make Your Vision Inevitable

✨ Today’s action step:
Before making any decision, ask yourself:

What would my future self do right now?

Repeat this affirmation:
“I am becoming the woman who naturally creates my dream life.”

�� Want to go deeper? Listen to my full podcast episode where I break this down step by step! → LISTEN HERE

Let me know: What’s ONE thing your future self does daily that you can start today? Let’s make your success inevitable! ��

Xoxo

Thais